英國大學的性騷擾案件

BBC發佈了一則新聞稿，我節錄一部份原文如下：

'A majority of UK students think there should be a compulsory test on understanding sexual consent at the start of university, a survey suggests.

The Higher Education Policy Institute's survey found 58% of students backed the idea of having to pass a test to show they "fully understand" consent.'

在一開學的時候，要做一個測驗，看學生懂不懂什麼叫「同意發生性關係」sexual consent。

我們通常覺得西方的大學生應該性觀念開放，而且很早熟，應該上大學之前就已經有性經驗了。

這個報告做了一個調查，發現其實不然。

'The survey of undergraduates, carried out in August 2020, suggested 43% had not had sex before going to university - and 25% had never "intimately kissed" anyone.'

四成多學生上大學之前沒有性經驗。

'Among male students, the survey claimed 66% had not had sex during their time as a student - and 53% of female students had not had sex during their university years.'

男性大學生之中，三分之二的人在唸大學期間沒有發生性關係，女大學生則是差不多一半。

筆者覺得其實這很難拿捏。如果女生本來就喜歡一個男生，男生比較強勢，強吻下去，可能是叫霸道的浪漫。但是如果女生本來就覺得這個男生很恐怖，男生還很強勢的給她吻下去，這叫性騷擾。

如果雙方看對眼了，非常熱情非常進入狀況，然後忽然想到，還沒有詢問對方同不同意發生性關係，這時是要拿出合約來簽約嗎？

還是口頭上問了對方說同意就可以？如果口頭上問，之後如果一方反悔，反說是強姦，又沒有證據對方當初口頭上同意了。

之前有英國的男性友人跟我說，他真的想過把合約印好，隨身帶著，要發生什麼事情之前拿出來雙方簽同意書，但是又大煞風景，不知道要怎麼做才能同時保護自己，保護女生。